This is the first of two dialogues exploring the vital importance of relationship experience for developing an integrate sense of self, that is, ego. Peter combines Buddhist teachings with current psychological understanding of how necessary relationship is, from just out of the womb throughout the lifetime of a person. When interpersonal dynamics are distorted, the self-states of each person are confused and conflicted. Benevolent Intention (Right Intention), combined with Clear Awareness (Right Understanding), manifested through Right Speech and Right Action (Benevolent Narrative and Benevolent Behavior), provide more integration in the succession of “selfing moments”. This integrative process provides the foundation for spiritual growth; relationship is the field of play for this process. Next week, Peter will discuss various aspects of Buddhist meditative process that fosters skillful relationship experiences.